Over the past two weeks I keep wondering, “When do you know when it’s time to move on from a goal or when you should keep pushing until you get what you want?”
We’re all taught to be unstoppable and fight for what you want, no matter how difficult it is. “Never take ‘no’ for an answer.” “Every ‘no’ brings you closer to a ‘yes’.” “Nothing worth having comes easy.” Yeah, yeah, yeah …
Trust me, I’m all about hard work. To be honest, I’m one of the hardest workers I know; but lately, I’ve been feeling that sometimes hard work isn’t enough.
Since August I’ve been looking for a strategic partner to help me grow Trend Tribe and bring it to the next level. Whether it’s bringing on a co-founder, an investor, or an advisor, I’ve been running around Manhattan trying to meet “the one”. No matter how hard I’ve worked on finding a strategic partner, I haven’t had much luck.
Now that it’s April and the weather is starting to warm up again, part of me feels like I’ve made no progress. I envisioned that by this time of the year, I’d have the right partners in place and my new team and I would be working towards bigger and better goals.
Apparently the universe has a different plan in mind …
This brings me to the opposite of hard work: being “in flow” with the universe.
I know that might sound super spiritual, but stick with me here. Being “in flow” is, in essence, being “lucky”. It’s when amazing things happen naturally. Progress is effortless. You’re achieving your goals like it’s nbd. You’re working hard, but it doesn’t feel hard. The universe is conspiring on your behalf.
Girl, that has not been my experience lately.
All of this has me wondering, “Should I stop actively looking for a strategic partner? Does that mean I’m quitting or giving up?” Ugh. I hate the thought of that.
After chatting with my girlfriends about this, they helped me realize that it’s not giving up, it’s just taking a different approach. I’m taking 1 step back to take two steps forward. I’m still open to the possibility of meeting my ideal strategic partner, but I’m going to focus my energy and attention on other areas of the business. And other areas of my personal life.
Yeah, I know. My personal life. It’s like a foreign concept to me. Instead of the usual rise and grind, I spent this week differently. I went to lunch in the middle of the day with my girlfriends, visited the gym more times than ever before, participated in a friend’s photoshoot, and went to a talk with the founder of SoulCycle. Best. Week. Ever.
I’ll admit, it’s a bit uncomfortable for me to take a step back (okay, very uncomfortable), but I have faith that this is what my business needs, what I need, to achieve my larger goals.
I’d love to hear your thoughts. When do you know when you should keep working hard to achieve your goals, or when you should take a step back to let things “flow”? Leave a comment below!